being sick & miserable objectively sucks, but it has become significantly easier to cope with since learning that “sickness behavior” is a well documented part of the body’s immune response
feeling not only physically but also emotionally like fucking garbage is unfortunately an extremely effective way to force your body to prioritize fighting infection & keeping you alive. i don’t have to like it, but knowing why i get weepy & pathetic when sick does help at least a little
i just found out that this is not common knowledge and am reblogging so more people know
YOUR BODY DOES THIS ON PURPOSE
YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON BECAUSE OR “WEAK” WHEN YOU ARE SICK IF YOU CAN"T CARRY ON AS NORMAL
You’re not weak. You’re strong and badass and your body is kicking the shit out of an infection. “Not feeling like doing shit,” and “wanting to lie on the couch all day and watch TV” are your body’s weapons
When your body needs all its energy to fight infection, it will force you to rest so it can use the energy typically allocated to other things. Illness is wartime, and everyone except the immune system is on rations. If you insist on trying to use energy for work or exercise or that event you just couldn’t miss, you are actively undermining your body’s defenses and will pay for it later. Take the rest you need and stop trying to steal your body’s defense budget.
“Queer infighting” such as my transmasc ex-boyfriend who, for the two years I was out to him as a trans woman (mind you, he was the closest person in the world to me and, due to what is probably bpd, dictated my entire self-opinion) would constantly point out male habits and behaviors I had and ways I would fail to pass. I told him I didn’t know how to put on tights about a month into my social transition and he was like “oh that’s such a man thing to say.” When I brought up how much that offended me he shrugged me off and moved on. When he came out to our friend group, he got gendered correctly immediately and withoit fail. When I came out (and started wearing pronoun pins [and starting every conversation with the group reminding people of my pronouns after a while]) I would get he’d and they’d constantly even when I was on my knees basically begging for a she/her. I’d talk about my hrt when I finally started and he’d shut me down and say it upset him to hear about. He would speak constantly about my male privelage and call me biologically male and talk about how male my autism was and honestly even though it’s been almost two years since we broke up I still think about it constantly.
Queer infighting is when a trans woman is hurt and doesn’t lie down and take it. Queer infighting is when I was treated by my own fucking partner as a destined rapist. Queer infighting is when I left that friend group, started college with no social life, and tried to kill myself. Queer infighting is when trans women are women.
stories like these are so depressingly common among transfems who dated a non-transfem around the time they came out.
My story isn’t as bad but still frustrating. I got into a relationship with a cis woman around the time i was starting to accept myself and come out to the people closest to me, but was still closeted to the world at large. She thought of me as a man when we got together, and despite me coming out to her and her assuring me she was okay with it and supportive of me, it very much felt like she treated me as her “boyfriend”, regardless of situation. We broke up for reasons less related to gender and more related to her not being a very good person. But what really got me is that a couple years later I heard from a mutual friend that she’d gotten into a relationship with another woman, and she was very excited to tell people about how she had “recently realized she was bisexual”, cementing that she never saw me as a woman. So that’s cool.
idk tumblr rap discourse, i think dismissing the political importance of the genre that successfully popularized the slogan “fuck the police” might be unwise
cool should we talk first about the rampant misogyny or the glorification of drug use that has led to the stigmatization of people who take legitimate prescription medications
yeah we can talk about that
these issues are endemic to USAmerican culture and don’t meaningfully trace back to rap in particular. pretending otherwise has obvious motives and “raising concerns” is a low-skill way to mask racism.
there. talk done.
If we’re talking about glorifying drugs, there’s a very common phrase that connects drugs and a specific music genre. How did it go again…?
“Sex, Drugs, and….” Hmm, what is the music genre again? Is it rap?
